Growing up child is just a matter of time
Forgiven all you’ve got, so won’t you dance under the sun?
Growing old feels like you’re giving up your soul –
And I’d rather give it freely to the ones that I call home
– Growing Up, Run River North
Dearest Ava,
I remember the first time your Mama told me she was pregnant with you. She was very scared and very confused. I was very speechless and very helpless. I guess when faced with a life changing event, we are all left feeling the extremes of everything.
You were a shock to the system, and this was just me, so I often wondered how your Mama must have felt. Over the course of your early life inside her, there would be a series of panicked and serious conversations, hopeless and desperate tears, and the sinking realization that lives were about to change and we weren’t children anymore.
As months flew by, and as we watched your Mama’s progress with every photo update she had sent us – I began feeling excited. Everything suddenly became a series of conversations filled with anticipation, happy tears, and the realization that your Mama will have a beautiful partner in crime just a few months away. We were all very excited to meet you Ava, you were very loved even before you opened your eyes.
I will admit that I never really understood children and there is a part of me that doesn’t think I can handle the responsibility of having one, so when your Mama told me I would be your Moon Mother – I took a deep breath, and tried to think of the things I could teach you.
I am admittedly not the best role model in the world, but I know enough to know what to say when you want to try something or too afraid to tell your Mama about something you did. I don’t know a lot Ava, but I know I made a promise to take care of you during the good, the bad, and most definitely the worst.
I was so scared to hold you because I didn’t know how to. You seemed so small, so fragile – I felt like I was going to break you. I felt like I was too clumsy to even think about holding you…but when you held onto my finger, something told me I could. You held onto my finger as if you were telling me not to panic; at such a young age Ava, you’ve already taught me something and pushed me further into new territory.
A lot of people will teach you how to walk, run, swim, draw, paint, laugh, cry, and so much more; but I promise to be there, holding your hand through the adventures you let me be a part of.
I knew, in that moment, your Moon Mother had been born.
Thank you for melting my heart that day little darling. Cheers to your adventures ahead.
I love you.